I went to an event last weekend with a dear friend and ran into several people that I knew or recognized. One was a friend I've known since junior high and see periodically. While I was trying to get her attention, I glanced at another friend of hers, a male, who I had also met previously. With him I exchanged a brief "hi" and asked him to get the attention of my female friend. Not ten minutes later when I had run into yet another girl I knew from the past, she asked how I knew the male friend. I didn't know him at all actually. I had run into him the equivolent of 3 times in the past. But she proceeded to tell me she was friends with his girlfriend. Why am I telling you this story? I believe that I was being warned that that guy had or has a girlfriend, just in case I was inclined to flirt with him. And as I walked away from the event, the girlfriend glared at me with the heat of a thousand suns. Was she serious? I made absolutely no effort to even have a conversation with him other than to get the attention of my female friend.
That little exchange prompted me to ask myself a question. Why are women so quick to fight with each other?
As I mentioned, I didn't really know at all the guy in question, and I have a significant other myself. I can't imagine being so insecure that I wouldn't even allow my boyfriend to speak to another person who has a vagina. Perhaps this girl's boyfriend was a known cheater. Perhaps she was raised without a father. I don't know the real issue, but it didn't have anything to do with me.
Women do this all the time. They automatically assume that other women are going to steal their boyfriend/husband, and will pretty much fight to the death in order to preserve their relationship, which, let's be honest, isn't worth saving if it's that easily upset.
Trust these days has become such a rare commodity. There are some situations in which a woman has major issues and can't live without the attention of men who are already tied to someone else. But guess what? It takes two to tango. I don't care who flirts with my boyfriend. Since he knows how good he has it, he's not taking the bait. This is not to say that other men wouldn't accept an invitation from an attractive woman (or in some cases downright homely, as cheaters often cheat "down"). But if he does, that's his problem and he's not good enough for you. Ditch him.
I know there is a shortage of men, particularly good ones, in the world and especially here in Vegas. But let's really look at who it is we are competing for. If he's easily led, fickle or a committment phobe, do we really want him? The right guy with the right intentions will always make a girl feel like there's no one in the world who can take his attention away from her. I have plenty of male friends who don't operate like "wandering eye Willy". Consequently they are the ones who are always asking me where to find a good woman. If some women, such as the jealous girlfriend mentioned above, would like to get their heads out of their asses and stop pursuing the un-gettable one who is seemingly exciting because of his ability to elude, I'd make introductions. Until then, I hope she enjoys her super big gulp sized glass of hater-aid. I myself will be going home to someone whose attention I can count on.
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